Preventing Divorce Article

Consider These Divorce Facts, Before Making Any Decisions You May Regret Later

It would be terrific if people really did take the time to find that one special person, and make a commitment to them to stay together forever, and stick to it, but unfortunately, that is not something that is likely to happen, especially with divorce rates as they are now. There are many reasons that people decide divorce is their best option, but in many cases, they could have taken a step back, and perhaps saved their marriages, if only they were committed to doing so. Most people, who do get divorced, don’t end up being any happier or more satisfied with their life, and many end up with more severe problems than they had to begin with. So, why do so many people think that divorce is the easy answer to all of their problems? Why do we think that our lives would be better with someone else, or by being alone?

If that isn’t enough to convince you to really put some effort into trying to save your marriage, then maybe some of the following facts will be. If you have children, you can expect your divorce to have a dramatic impact on them, no matter how old they are. They are upset, of course, about not being able to spend time with both of their parents together, and they are confused about why they have to spend time without their parents, did they do something wrong that caused Mom and Dad to split up? Children, even older children, spend a lot of time trying to come to grips with their parents’ divorce, and understanding that it was not their fault.

You think that divorce is the answer, the key that will make you once and for all happy with your life, but did you think about all the time and frustration that you will have to deal with when it comes to legal aspects of the divorce? You will have to obtain a divorce attorney, property issues, support, custody of children, child support, alimony, etc., all of which can take months to be finalized, especially if your spouse decides to contest the divorce.

If you have decided that divorce can solve all of your financial problems, you might want to think again. One of you will be forced to find a new place to live, purchase new furniture, appliances, perhaps a new car, and all on one income, rather than two. You will also still be responsible for the debts that were incurred during your marriage, at least in part, and you will also be required to pay court and attorney fees as well. If you don’t get sole or joint custody of your children, you will have to find money to pay child support with, and maybe even alimony. You can expect to end up significantly more in debt than you were before your divorce, unless you decide to file bankruptcy, or move back in with your parents.

Many religions teach you that divorce is wrong, that when you say vows in front of God, you are bound for life, and that even though you may be divorced in the eyes of the law, you are still together, and are not free to pursue other relationships, at least not without committing adultery. So, you either have to stay in your marriage and try to work through it, or turn your back on your faith, and everything that you have been taught thus far. It can be an extremely difficult decision to make.

If you still think that you want to get divorced, and do go through with it, are you going to be ready to immediately jump into another relationship, or are you going to be satisfied living the single life from now on? If you do get married again, what will you do to prevent this marriage from ending in divorce as well?

Hopefully, after reading this article, you have decided to rethink your marriage situation, and try to work things out with your spouse. Every marriage is worth saving, as long as there is no abuse involved.